I want the companionship but not the feeling that I have to try to convert my mind over to loving someone so different than my husband. Using my heart and trying to love someone right now is like driving a car with no air in the tires. It hurts every moment and it isn’t the fault of the guy trying to love me and it isn’t my fault either. I lost myself when I lost my husband and I am still trying to learn to love me. I think it was too hard for the guy to understand the things that even I can’t understand about myself and what I’m going through. Maybe people who have never gone through this type of grief need some advice on understanding that widows/widowers search for companionship, not serious commitment..
We continued to have a nice time etc but there were times where he went quiet for a day or so then came back with excuses about work etc though Im pretty sure he was struggling with his feelings. In early December he said that he was struggling with the thought of the holiday period as it brought back too many memories and he was having feelings of guilt at being in a relationship. I told him I didn’t want it to end either and I still don’t but I have now not heard from him for 3 weeks. I decided to give him some space him after initially sending a few messages saying I was thinking of him and hoped he was ok.
Ever since my husband left me my love life was in a mess. And i always through and wish we were together and that he would come back to my life and our love could stay endless. I wanted to fight this war of love without weapons, but then i realize that he has fully made up his mind against me.
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People start calling you by your last name.
It’s so difficult and I don’t know who to speak with except another person that has gone through this? Hoping someone out there feels like chatting. I have fallen in love with a wonderful man who’s wife passed away 3 years ago. Please, stop romanticize widowers so much. How can you feel guilty for being with him and that if not his LW’s suicide you wouldn’t be with him?
I forgave you over and over and over again. I forgave you for things that I never in a million years could imagine myself doing to you, or anyone for that matter; because I love you. Even when you did the unspeakable, I still loved you. That meant hookupgenius.com/ loyalty and unconditional love. You decided we weren’t friends anymore when you chose a boy over our friendship — over and over and over again. You decided we weren’t friends anymore when you chose to be jealous instead of happy for me.
I may have run him off when I asked him what was his hurry to leave. The counselor sounds like they are trying to take a safe approach. Don’t dive straight in to the first relationship that comes along thing. Ignoring that it might just be a great thing… The problem with a lot of therapists and counselors is they are way more messed up than their patients. I somewhat feel the counselor has overstepped boundaries, but I could certainly be wrong. I guess I think well, we’re happy, why disrupt it.
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But he had some unrealistic expectations – thinking “I was married and was happy. So I did the right thing and we stopped dating, but we stayed best friends and stayed close. Within a year he married a girl a year younger than me who was just trying to move out of her parent’s house.
Saying things like I could be a gold digger, her dad is all she has and doesn’t want to loose him, she’s not ready for him to date, throughout our whole relationship. The most recent is she put up pictures in his house of him and his late wife sharing loving looks hugs ect. I love him dearly but I have been experiencing a lot of stress and sleepless nights trying to figure out what to do. My dear friend died of cancer and, before he died, he pretty much asked me to marry his wife and raise his son. They were close family friends and i had also just gone through a divorce. I still waited because i couldn’t quite come to terms with the idea of marrying my friends widow… the catch is that, i loved him too and i miss him a lot.
Our son was born in 1990 and things were really wonderful. At least until just after my older son graduated from high school in 2001. Within a couple of months Tom was diagnosed with very advanced Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.